I’m having my first real moment of feeling down amidst this process in which I’m supposed to be happy and on my A-game. I finally told Adam “to just forget about it.” I tried dumping him over the phone and when he said, “So I guess I won’t call you again?” . . . I could not handle it. I stopped him and said, “I don’t want to do this over the phone, let’s talk in person.” As we all know, actions always speak louder than words. As it turned out, we never were able to get that meeting together. He wasn’t giving me the time someone who is interested is more than willing to give, and I could tell that anything I explained about how I felt would be for my benefit only. Nothing I could say would make the situation any different. I told him I was disappointed. I could never tell where he was at anyway. I mean, was he able to give me what I want and unwilling or not even able in the first place?
I’ve got to keep my chin up and keep going. I do not want to give up, so I have really been doing some profile searching. I’ve sent a few messages, but I don’t know what’s going on. I’m just not connecting with anyone too interesting. I know that things will ebb and flow, but I’m ready for some qualified bachelors here! Maybe I should consider having that service re-write my profile. Kidding! I couldn’t. I’m just not sure if mine best represents me. I should have a girlfriend take a look and see what they say. It’s kind of personal though. I really haven’t shown mine to anyone I know. I’ll see if I can muster up the courage.
Moving on . . . I met #5, John, Saturday afternoon for ice cream. I do love ice cream, so I went for it. I just didn’t feel anything with this guy. No chemistry and he talked so much about himself that I was bored and unimpressed with all of his traveling stories. I love it when people assume that everyone else lives their life just like them. He asked me where I was going this summer for vacation. I’m thinking, “Hello, why do you think I’m dating? I need a guy who is willing to take me on an all-expense paid trip with him being my travel companion.” I’d have to see if a friend could get off work, charge a plane ride, hope to stay with someone we know, and be willing to eat cereal rather than go out. Okay, that might be a bit dramatic, but partially true. Later, he mentioned something about being part of the Gold Club, like mining for gold, and said that they are all “the good old boys” and that turned me off. That is clearly not my club! He also interrupted me during my spiel and started talking about something else. I thought it a rude gesture. Besides, living third person through a stranger’s stories is not my first choice for engaging with someone I’d like to get to know. I want to talk about how the other feels about given subjects such as family, work, music, interests . . . am I crazy? I like to keep some of those tales for another time when we are comparing stories and it is appropriate.
Maybe I just don’t get the whole puffing out the chest and shaking your tail feather for the opposite sex thing. You know, like a peacock. I want to be able to be silent in a room with someone and be able to feel the sizzle of energy and chemistry swirling between us. I want the type of connection with someone where you don’t even need words, you can barely look anywhere else than directly in their eyes, time stops, and you notice nothing else. Yeah time stopped alright, because I was wondering when he would eat some ice cream and stop talking.